What Do You Think About This Relationship – Mr. Nice Guy Vs Olivia De Havilland?
I was browsing the Oprah magazine site when I came across an article written by Larry Butler, published in April of this year. It was titled “Chasing Mr. Nice Guy”.
Larry Butler and Ellen DeGeneres had a new boyfriend together. It had been a long time coming for them, and I am not sure if they still have one. But the article went on to explain why they had come to realize that their boyfriends were no match for them. The article was an interesting read, and it had me thinking.
My problem with Mr. Nice Guy is that he never gives me the chance to be more than I am. He never tries to do better or more for me. He would like me to feel all of his feelings, but he refuses to give me the opportunity to go out there and give them to me.
When I meet up with Mr. Nice Guy, he wants me to know how much he loves me, and he will take care of me for the rest of my life. I know he really loves me, but he just does not want to make any commitments or promises. Sometimes he cannot seem to catch a break. I love him and he makes me feel special, but he really is all about himself.
Olivia de Havilland once said, “You should never do for someone what you would not want to do for yourself.” I do believe that is true. If you really wanted to be with somebody who is really committed to doing something for you, then you would never settle for being with the right kind of person.
You do not need to be with the right kind of person in order to feel important, because they are going to be less important than you. It is easier to play nice with the wrong kind of people than with the right kind of people. It takes a lot more work to keep Mr. Nice Guy away from you than it does to hold onto the right kind of relationship. He’s only interested in that one kind of relationship.
A good thing about this article is that it had me reflecting on my own commitment to becoming the kind of woman I want to be. I would love to be the kind of woman Olivia de Havilland was. So, let’s please not become the kind of woman Mr. Nice Guy would have us become.